It was Daughter # 1’s 16th birthday. Her boyfriend at the time had come, picked her up and taken her to a nice restaurant for dinner.
It was a beautiful evening. We had the windows open letting the cool breeze blow through our home.
I heard the vehicle drive up; heard one vehicle door open and shut then another open and SLAM shut! Then I heard voices. I peered behind the curtain and saw Daughter # 1 stomping across the lawn with Boyfriend beside her. Her voice was raised by ...several decibels.
It was a beautiful evening. We had the windows open letting the cool breeze blow through our home.
I heard the vehicle drive up; heard one vehicle door open and shut then another open and SLAM shut! Then I heard voices. I peered behind the curtain and saw Daughter # 1 stomping across the lawn with Boyfriend beside her. Her voice was raised by ...several decibels.
“I CANNOT believe she would do that to me!! She had a party at HER house and didn’t invite me! And , she knew it was my birthday!
“Maybe she thought you had other plans.” Her boyfriend said, trying to calm her.
“Yea, right! She just didn’t want me to be there. She just pretends to be my friend! She doesn’t like me and this proves it! She thinks she is so much better than I am anyway. You just wait until I see her tomorrow! I counted at least 10 cars in front of her house and I KNOW who those cars belong to … MY friends! I guess now she is trying to turn all of my friends against me. She probably told them she invited me and I was too good to come to her party! I have a good mind to call her when I get in the house and let her know that I KNOW she is having a party and why didn’t I get invited.”
Daughter # 1 stormed up the front steps, opened the door, still mumbling. Our living room and entryway were divided by a tall bookshelf. She stomped across the entryway; turned to go into the living room and there stood her friend , whom she had badmouthed all across the lawn, and a dozen or so of her friends all waiting to wish her happy birthday and enjoy a surprise party that had been planned at our place one block over from her friend’s house. Remember, the windows in our living room were open so Daughter # 1’s friends had all heard everything she said…. humiliating to say the least. Thankfully, her friends laughed and laughed; her friend forgave her and her 16th birthday party was one she will always remember.
Here was a prime example of judging. Daughter # 1 was judging her good friend because of something she had seen and perceived. She had no proof there was a party going on without her, yet she was judging without facts.
“Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.” John 7:24 ESV
“Maybe she thought you had other plans.” Her boyfriend said, trying to calm her.
“Yea, right! She just didn’t want me to be there. She just pretends to be my friend! She doesn’t like me and this proves it! She thinks she is so much better than I am anyway. You just wait until I see her tomorrow! I counted at least 10 cars in front of her house and I KNOW who those cars belong to … MY friends! I guess now she is trying to turn all of my friends against me. She probably told them she invited me and I was too good to come to her party! I have a good mind to call her when I get in the house and let her know that I KNOW she is having a party and why didn’t I get invited.”
Daughter # 1 stormed up the front steps, opened the door, still mumbling. Our living room and entryway were divided by a tall bookshelf. She stomped across the entryway; turned to go into the living room and there stood her friend , whom she had badmouthed all across the lawn, and a dozen or so of her friends all waiting to wish her happy birthday and enjoy a surprise party that had been planned at our place one block over from her friend’s house. Remember, the windows in our living room were open so Daughter # 1’s friends had all heard everything she said…. humiliating to say the least. Thankfully, her friends laughed and laughed; her friend forgave her and her 16th birthday party was one she will always remember.
Here was a prime example of judging. Daughter # 1 was judging her good friend because of something she had seen and perceived. She had no proof there was a party going on without her, yet she was judging without facts.
“Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.” John 7:24 ESV
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